Hooking up with someone new is fun and exciting, especially if they have a fetish that you’re not familiar with, forcing you into a quick and dirty crash course that can make for some pretty pleasurable research. If you hook up with someone online and discover that they have a secret kink that you’re interested in learning more about then here’s what you need to do to brush up on the basics:
Use the right casual dating sites.
If you’re going out of your way to look for someone who has a fetish then make sure that you include that in your online search criteria. Most online classified sex sites will have intake sections dedicated to the type of things you’re into, whether it’s bondage, group sex, or feet. Get detailed about the kind of person you’re looking for to gain the best results from an online hookup site. You might even find that there are entire sites dedicated to particular fetishes, which can open up a whole new world of sexual possibilities for you.
Don’t pretend to be a pro.
If you’re new to the world of S&M or threesomes then don’t try to fake it and pretend that you’re an experienced player on the scene. Admit that you’re a newbie but let your hookup know that you’re ready and willing to learn. People will usually love teaching a newcomer and will find your rookie-status hotter than they would if you were faking it. They’ll likely see right through a phony act anyway so you’re better off to just admit it from the start and then lay back and let them show you the ropes when you hook up.
Do a little homework.
If you know that you’re going to be hooking up with someone with a particular fetish then it’s a smart idea to do a little research in advance. Search a live cam site, browse a sex shop in your area, or read online classifieds to get the scoop on what’s hot and what’s not for a specific sexual interest.
Get in the mood.
The internet isn’t just good for research, but it’s also great for finding sexual inspiration and getting yourself in the mood. Watch some bondage porn or tune into a live cam site that involves the same type of fantasies that your online hook up has. You’ll get turned on and ready for the kind of action that they’re into, priming you for a hookup that will be unforgettable for both of you.
Bring your own freaky side out to play.
If you discover that your online hookup has an undercover foot fetish then it creates the perfect opportunity to introduce your own secret sex fantasies. Since they’re already vulnerable it’s the perfect time to bring up your own sexual preferences and know that they aren’t in a position to judge you. In fact, they’ll probably think it’s hot that you shared what you’re into and might even be willing and ready to try it the next time you hook up.
When a person is new to a certain fetish it can be hard for them to get into it because they feel awkward or fake. Take the pressure off and have a little fun by adopting sexy alter-egos and role playing together. Since you and a casual hook up don’t really know each other that well anyway it’s not much of a stretch to change names and identities, all in the name of some good, kinky fun. People have a much easier time letting go of their inhibitions when they’re acting as someone else, so if that’s what it takes for you to feel comfortable and turned on, then by all means go for it.
Take baby steps.
No matter what your online hookup partner is into, you don’t need to become an expert overnight or turn yourself into a fetish enthusiast right off the bat. Let them know that you’re turned on and willing to explore their sexual interests, but do it at a reasonable pace. Take small steps as you try out new experiences and see what works for you. It’s easier to back off if you haven’t taken the full plunge and you won’t feel the same pressure that you would if you were trying to do too much too soon.
See what else is out there.
If you’ve discovered a new partner with a new fetish, then who’s to say what else is out there that you don’t know about yet? You’ll never know what great sexual experience you can have if you don’t actively look for it. Hit up your favorite online chat sites or pay more attention to the categories on a live sex cam site. Most people tend to browse the same several categories without even noticing some of the other sections there are on their favorite live sex sites. Be open minded and see what other erotic ideas you can explore online.